The holidays bring up a lot of emotions and I know from experience that one of these emotions can be loneliness. I’m not sure if it’s the prevalence of romantic holiday movies, or the emphasis on connecting to other humans, but for some reason the Christmas-season is a time when I would always hate being single.
I’m not sure if it’s true, but I feel like it’s gotten worse in the era of social media. Now every person can advertise what they do with their special significant other. Photos of cute winter-wonderland adventures. Couples buying trees together. Sipping cider. Traveling the world etc etc. I remember, years ago, seeing a photo of a friend and her boyfriend in Paris for Christmas: the image is seered into my brain. How could it not?
When it comes to feeling lonely in the holiday season I highly suggest turning off your social media. Or at least avoiding it. I know this isn’t always easy — social media can be very addicting and can give you a sense of being connected — but the minute it starts to make you feel bad about yourself, stop. Turn it off and go outside for a walk. Put on your headphones and listen to your favorite music (speaking of, I gota get me the new Beyonce album. Stat.)
And the minute you start feeling bad for yourself, start doing good deeds. It doesn’t have to be anything big. It can be anything small. Donate your loose change to those Salvation Army bell-ringers. Pay the bridge toll for the car behind you. Make dinner for your family.
Pull yourself outside of your sad-self thoughts and look outward and help. Research charities that follow your interests, whether it be children, animals, environment, health, and send them even $5 or $10 dollars. Call your little brother and ask how college is going for him. Shovel the snow in your walkway AND your neighbors walkway.
The quickest way to stop feeling alone is to start giving back to the world around you. It can be quiet and small. Sometimes secret acts of kindness are the best kind.
The power of the holiday season to make you lonely only has power if you allow it to. You have a choice in how you want to feel during the holiday season. And all those Lifetime romantic holiday movies? Screw ’em!! (jk I definitely watched all of them on Netflix)