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Are Times of Transition Affecting Your Anxiety

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For several years in college I worked as a behavioral therapist for children on the Autism Spectrum. Transitions were often challenging for a lot of my students and we’d play games that helped develop coping skills to ease transition times. Transition times were often categorized by a time one activity needed to end in order for another to begin. For example, needing to come in from the backyard in order to eat dinner. Or needing to turn off the TV to go take a bath. Or bedtime. BEDTIME. Any parent knows that transitioning to bedtime can turn into a mind-battle more complex than the average game of chess. It is tough to transition to darkness. I’m almost thirty-years-old and it wasn’t until yesterday (seriously guys, 24hrs ago) that it struck me that I too struggle with transitions. And I always have. How about you? Do you notice your anxiety alway increasing at the end of summer breaks as the school year nears? Did you ever have to start a new job? Start a new school? …

Breaking Habits We Don’t Even Know We Have

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In my suggested readings section of this site I mention the book “The Power of Habit” by Charles Duhigg. I read this book for the first time in the fall of 2014 and I am still a believer. The gist of this book is: change one habit, change your life. But what if we aren’t even aware of some of our habits? Shit, man, what then? After I first read “The Power of Habit” I literally only changed one habit from my days and by God it worked! For years I had a small novel bouncing around in my head, but hadn’t gotten around to writing it. So the one habit I changed was how I spent my lunch break at work. Instead of dicking around on the internet or wandering around the office kitchen I would grab my laptop the minute I clocked out, go to the next door coffee shop, and write for an hour. Every.single.day. And I eventually wrote the little book. I think of this anytime I feel helpless in life. It’s not always …

What are your habits when it comes to being anxious

I’m Learning to Recognize My Anxiety Patterns

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I spent this past weekend with my partner’s family. His brother was visiting from Chicago and it was the first time, in a long time, that the entire family was together. I’ve known and loved his family for a few years now, but I’ve only recently become fully comfortable with them. Like truly comfortable. Like, can joke about my colon kind of comfortable. But then something happened that disrupted that sense of comfort. Our routine changed tracks. When we spend weekends with his family, I usually know what to expect. We usually eat dinner around 7 or 8pm. It usually includes some kind of salmon or steak or pasta variety with a side of salad and bread. There will be an option for dessert at the end. Except this past weekend something new occurred. We went out to eat. And for some reason, this triggered my anxiety. At first I had a difficult time understanding where my anxiety was coming from. I go out to eat all the time. I have eaten in restaurants with his …

Ask What You Want Wednesday | College Confidence

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I’ve always been insecure about my body but now I’ve started gaining the freshmen 15 since I just started college. I recently came out of the closet and am struggling with a LOT of nerves over talking with guys I find attractive since I’m not feeling attractive myself.  I think before anything you should pause a moment to feel proud of yourself for having the courage to not only A) head off to college, but B) also the courage to be true to yourself and taking the first steps in leading a future of honesty and self-respect. Neither of these steps are easy. And for both of them you deserve a great deal of compassion and warmth. You’ve been true. You have been brave. And college is always a transitional time, especially when it comes to our personal beliefs and perspectives. We are tested. We grow and change. This can apply to all areas of our lives: personal relationships, faith, family, interests, and of course, our body images. Learning to love and accept your body (at …