All posts filed under: Personal Growth

Once Again, Jenny Jaffe Rocks Our World

One of the weird side effects of our incredibly connected, social-media-driven world is how it can sometimes feel like you don’t exist if you choose to step away for a bit. Whether you’re afraid of missing out on social events, you’re afraid you’ll stop knowing what’s going on in the world, or you’re afraid people WILL FORGET YOU EXIST, the fear can be real. That’s why I fell head over heels in LOVE with this new video Jenny Jaffe (the founder of Project UROK) created in response to some of the more recent events in the news. And if I could, I’d high five the shit out of her. “If social media is starting to stress you out you can disengage. I doesn’t mean that you are a person who are uninformed, it doesn’t mean you’re being willfully ignorant, it means you’re taking care of yourself. It can be really important to consume the kinds of media that make you feel good.” She then proceeds to list happy things you can find on the internet like …

When Your Body Answers the Question “How are you?” For You

All my life I have found myself feeling betrayed by my body. Often this betrayal comes in the form of a serious bowel issue coming up at a seriously inopportune time. However, other times it rears its ugly head in poorly timed crying, aggressive gas in public places, or massive cystic pimples on my chin right before my cousin’s wedding. All of these things can be traced back to my lifelong relationship with stress and anxiety. Last week I had another startling reminder that my body often knows more about my emotional state than my brain does. I found a sizable bald patch on my head. Like, my body is jettisoning hair from my head like I’m Apollo 11 releasing my Saturn V rockets. I am not the best at coping with uncertainty and stress. And my body KNOWS it and often forces me to face the truth even if my brain is like “whatever I GOT this.” I’m the emotional equivalent of those marathon runners you see who are running along, shouting I’m doing it, I’m …

Why I Wish People Would Stop Telling Me to Develop a Thicker Skin

Growing up, I heard it a lot. “You need to grow a thicker skin if you want to survive in this world!” Most likely this was said to me as a I sat blubbering or drooling in tears because I just watched a pigeon with one leg hobble across the street. The truth is, I bruise easily. Emotionally, mentally, and physically. I’m the human version of what a peach would look like if it sprouted legs and wandered out into a forest shouting what a nice night for some socializing hey is that a hungry looking wolver– And over the years, yes, I’ve learned to be tougher. I can stand my ground better than I used to, I am more solid in knowing myself and therefore knowing when someone is treating me unfairly, and I have walked away from people who make me feel unloved. But still…..still I cry easily. If I am upset, I cry. If I’m angry, I cry. If I’m hungry, excited, sad, confused, frustrated, happy, nervous, or tired, I will more likely …

When What You’re Creating Doesn’t Look How You Want

“I can see it up here!” she said, tapping the side of her head, “but then when I try to draw it, it looks ridiculous.” It was a summer weekend a few months back and I was playing a game with my fiancé and future in-laws. His mom was lamenting over her inability to draw a picture clearly. The game, Telestrations, is a combination of telephone and pictionary and triggers some of the best laughter I’ve encountered in years. It requires players to draw pictures quickly, which means eventually you’re going to look down and go wait WHAT was I trying to draw? It might even make you want to flip the table over and walk away. This week I’ve been working on designing and creating invitations for Jared and mine’s upcoming wedding. Earlier in the year we made DIY save the dates. It went like this: we found a design we liked, got our supplies, and made them. And even though it took a lot of time and we hit a few bumps, we loved how …