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Ask What You Want Wednesday | Mastering Eye-Contact

I have a really hard time making eye contact when I’m talking to the guy I have a crush on. How can I get better at making eye contact? Eye contact is something a lot of people struggle with, even those without anxiety. I have a dear friend who is wildly extroverted and comfortable in social situations, but when we talk one-on-one she tends to close her eyes while talking. I’m always like, “Claire, what are you doing?” It is especially challenging to our generation who communicates so much through texts, or instagram, twitter, etc etc…fewer and fewer forms of flirting are face to face interactions. Here’s what I always remind myself: you don’t have to stare forever. Eye contact doesn’t have to be constant. In fact, it’s better if it’s not. Imagine someone staring into your eyes without blinking, for an entire conversation, forever and ever. Awkward. This is what I do. I make eye contact briefly, usually when I start saying something, then look at what’s in my hands or I look somewhere …