All posts tagged: Christmas

Ask What You Want Wednesday: Holiday Distance Anxiety

Nearly two weeks ago I started spending time with a very lovely man who I met through mutual friends. Being with him is wonderful. He is very calm, kind, and we don’t stop talking. I feel as though I’m falling for him very quickly. Now, over the holidays, all I have to rely on for contact are very sparse texts. I’m an avid texter, and he’s not. I’ve heard this is just how he is and his friends all have difficulty getting in touch with him. Waiting for him to respond to me is torture. Having anxiety alongside feeling strongly for him very fast, then facing separation over the holidays has been an absolute nightmare. Dating and the holidays as separate concepts are bad enough for the anxious, but both together are horrific.   Do you have any advice on how I can chill the heck out over Christmas and trust that it will work out if it’s meant to? Okay, let me tell you right here right now THIS IS SUCH A COMMON EXPERIENCE. Not only do the holidays bring …

The Power of Choosing Your Love

The further I burrow into the messy and mulchy business of planning a wedding, the more I’ve been thinking about the concept of free will. I’ve been thinking about freedom of choice. Jared and I have “chosen” to have a rather large wedding and have “chosen” to make sure certain things are at this wedding (food, booze, music, hopefully a kickass magician) but in reality was it just societal pressure making the choice for us? Was it all preordained in the land of Martha Stewart and Pinterest? Did I even want an assortment of cheeses and crackers as an appetizer!?? (Yes. The answer is always “yes” when it comes to cheese). Anxiety often has the habit of grabbing hold of the reins and making it feel like we’re simply along for the ride. This can feel especially true when we are trying to pursue love in our lives. Wedding planning has definitely been poking awake my anxiety. Which then makes me think about how I got here. It has made me think a lot about how …

How the holidays can make you feel depressed or anxious about love

All the Feelings the Holidays Dig Up

The holidays bring up a lot of emotions and I know from experience that one of these emotions can be loneliness. I’m not sure if it’s the prevalence of romantic holiday movies, or the emphasis on connecting to other humans, but for some reason the Christmas-season is a time when I would always hate being single. I’m not sure if it’s true, but I feel like it’s gotten worse in the era of social media. Now every person can advertise what they do with their special significant other. Photos of cute winter-wonderland adventures. Couples buying trees together. Sipping cider. Traveling the world etc etc. I remember, years ago, seeing a photo of a friend and her boyfriend in Paris for Christmas: the image is seered into my brain. How could it not? When it comes to feeling lonely in the holiday season I highly suggest turning off your social media. Or at least avoiding it. I know this isn’t always easy — social media can be very addicting and can give you a sense of …