All posts tagged: Crushes

Dating Wrong Guy Scared Safety Anxious

The Safety Found in Picking the Wrong Guy

It’s not always the easiest thing to realize about ourselves, but sometimes we make decisions without our best interest in mind. What I mean is: I know I’ve made choices in my life that are self-defeating. Self-defeating behavior often arises when we fear getting what we most want. This often is rooted in fearing we are not worth what we most want. Self-defeating behavior can be recognized as a choice, an action, or a behavior that ultimately results in us being further from the intended goal. For example, a few months ago I told myself I was going to start attending yoga class twice a week. I wanted to go for my mental, emotional, and physical health. Since I was going through a lot in life (changing careers, planning a future with my partner, traveling across the country for my sister’s wedding) I knew my anxiety would be increasing. And yoga often clears the cobwebs in the attic of my mind. But then life got in the way. One day my ankle was hurting. Another …