All posts tagged: Grace

Patience Anxiety Go Easy On Yourself

Why You Need to Give Yourself a Break

It’s so easy to beat yourself up. To walk yourself into a cold, sterile room and seat yourself in a folding chair. To flick on the bare bulb above, slam your palms on the stainless steel table and shout “Last Saturday night at 7:48pm — why did you say that one thing??” Hours can be spent over-analyzing something you’ve said. Something you did. Something you didn’t do. Since moving to Seattle a few years back I’ve been slow to make my own friends. I’ve been welcomed by the wonderful friends of my partner, but as far as me striking out on my own and meeting people alone, I’ve been about as successful as a sea anemone who woke up one morning and shrieked “today I’m going to take a lovely stroll on the beach!” Good friends are hard to find. They are sometimes even harder to find for people with anxiety. Finding and making friends can often feel a lot like the dating world. You hope to find someone with similar interests, compatible humor, and …

Finding strength and power while being single like a shepard

Repeat After Me: It’s Okay to Be Single

Solitude is something our fast-paced, busy-means-successful, selfies-with-friends, culture doesn’t exactly support. I think it’s important to differentiate between solitude and isolation, especially when it comes to the dialogue surrounding being “in a relationship” vs. “single.” For the many years I was single, I heard a lot of feedback that told me something was wrong with me for being single. Whether it was family members routinely asking if I’ve found anyone special, countless advertisements showing me how happy I’ll be if I could just get an engagement ring, friends feeling bad for me because I’m always the third wheel, or a stranger on the bus telling me she was sorry when I told her I didn’t have a boyfriend. For whatever reason the message single people tend to receive from the world is why are you this way and why aren’t you doing anything about it? Solitude is important. It’s vital to our health and our ability to process what is going on in our lives, understand how we feel about situations, and make informed, mature …