All posts tagged: Relationships

To People With Anxiety…

Something wonderful happened the other day. A reader reached out to me to let me know The Anxious Girl’s Guide to Dating helped inspire her to write about her own anxiety and dating/relationships/her heart. (No *you’re* trying not to cry while sitting at your desk in your pajamas). Take a minute and check out this beautifully honest, totally real, and really oh-my-word-that’s-ME piece, “To People With Anxiety Who Think They Can’t Date” by Monique Hebert over at The Mighty. SO honored that this blog had any part in Monique’s words and can’t wait to see what she writes next. Love all you readers, like woah. Keep being you.         Advertisements

Breaking Habits We Don’t Even Know We Have

In my suggested readings section of this site I mention the book “The Power of Habit” by Charles Duhigg. I read this book for the first time in the fall of 2014 and I am still a believer. The gist of this book is: change one habit, change your life. But what if we aren’t even aware of some of our habits? Shit, man, what then? After I first read “The Power of Habit” I literally only changed one habit from my days and by God it worked! For years I had a small novel bouncing around in my head, but hadn’t gotten around to writing it. So the one habit I changed was how I spent my lunch break at work. Instead of dicking around on the internet or wandering around the office kitchen I would grab my laptop the minute I clocked out, go to the next door coffee shop, and write for an hour. Every.single.day. And I eventually wrote the little book. I think of this anytime I feel helpless in life. It’s not always …

I Still Think I’m Right About Taylor Swift & Calvin Harris (UPDATE! Clues! I need to get out more!)

So listen, a few of you indulged me a few months back and read my wildly lengthy blog post about how I thought Taylor Swift and Calvin Harris might still be together even amidst her Hiddleston stuff. I stand here today, nearly two months later, standing by my claim. I’m gona keep this one short and sweet, but here we go: Yesterday, September 6th, the news came out that Taylor Swift and Tom Hiddleston broke up. On September 3rd CH tweeted three geese emojis (much like he used to tweet the three lightning bolts ((see previous blog post on why this matters)).  Then on September 5th (one day before the breakup news) he tweeted a new image of the “This Is What You Came For” patch with new colors and geese where there used to be lightning bolts. He also changed his twitter header image to the same thing  (also, note what his pinned tweet STILL is after all these months..): Remember, this patch is the only evidence TS left on her instagram that alluded to …

10 Ways to Calm Your Internal Mama Bear

The other night I got mad. Real mad. I came across something online, something someone said about a person I know, and the mama bear in me raged. I wanted to act. I wanted to chase someone up a tree. I had my response and was ready to throw it like a pine cone. Anger is an emotion we all have and we constantly are learning to navigate. I grew up around several individuals who had tempers and therefore I associate anger and being upset as “bad” emotions. I’m still learning how to be better at being mad. It is natural for things to upset us. It is okay for things to upset us. It’s how we handle them that makes the difference. Anxiety is particularly good at stirring up our anger. We are prone to negative thought patterns, obsessive worry, and increased irritability. If you struggle with anxiety odds are you also find yourself struggling with angry emotions from time to time. But there are ways to help yourself through these moments… 1. Acknowledge …

Why You Should Meet that Online Crush in Person Sooner Rather than Later

I was supposed to be working on my writing exercise. After telling myself I was going to attend a local writers Meetup for over a year I finally dragged myself out into the world and did it. I was at a neighborhood coffee shop, surrounded by eight other women writers from Seattle, and we were doing a 10 minute character exercise. Except I couldn’t concentrate. I couldn’t concentrate because there was a first date at the table next to me. And they’d clearly met online. And it was clearly uncomfortable for both of them. To be perfectly honest, I could sit and listen to first dates all day long if I could. I love those first moments of sheer terror, of hope, of uncertainty, of wonder and fear. One of my first serious, head-over-heels crushes was with a man I met online. Or, we were introduced online by a mutual friend and started exchanging emails. And lemme tell you, hot shit was he dreamy and witty and perfect.  And for the first time in my life …